Health Anxiety

mooba1, Jun 5, 3:53pm
This is a kind of embarrassing problem. I am a bit of a hypochondriac, I don't sit around thinking I've got something all the time but if I do have any kind of problem my mind runs away with me. A few months ago I had a problem with a UTI that wouldn't go away, turned out to be something else and kept going to doctor, and it just seemed to eventually right itself. Last week I had a cold with sneezing and things, and I felt like I had pulled a muscle in my pelvis area, that is slowly righting itself but I can still feel like a dull ache around there. I don't know if Id even notice it if I wasn't concentrating on it. My stupid brain has decided it is Ovarian cancer and I have to fight to get that out of my mind. Last time I had the unknown UTI type thing my brain had me convinced it was Curvical cancer.

Honestly, what on earth? It never is these things I get convinced that I have got, so I always say to myself next time don't worry, then the next time I get something and away I go again convincing myself I have some terrible disease.

Does anyone else suffer this sort of thing or am I just a mental case lol.

msigg, Jun 5, 4:18pm
Yes mental. You need to get out and about.get your mind off thinking about your body all the time. It will do you lots more harm in the future if u worry all the time. Exercise. Lots of food have some fun do different things. Go for it

kacy5, Jun 5, 4:35pm
Don't worry Mooba as I have a friend exactly the same, the slightest twinge is a heart attack, cancer etc. She knows what she is like so if she rings up in a panic I give no sympathy (fatal) and change the subject. She soon comes right. I have known her for nearly 30 years and have never known her to have more than a heavy cold once in all those years---apart from a broken arm and a hip replacement but that wasn't an illness. She'll never change and it wouldn't be her if she did.

maribelle, Jun 5, 4:42pm
Having had the ongoing UTI would make you wonder if there is something more serious going on, so I don’t think you are overreacting to be worried. If you can go and see your doctor and see if there are any tests you could have just to be sure, and that might help alleviate your worries next time something happens.

lillol, Jun 5, 4:43pm
I think maybe talking to a Counsellor could help. May give you some coping strategies.

kacy5, Jun 5, 5:11pm
My friends UTI (or so she thought it was) righted itself when she stopped being so heavy handed with her soap powder when she did the washing. Get it checked by the Dr though as you may need something for it if it is that but peace of mind will be worth it if there is nothing wrong.

lyndad59, Jun 5, 5:13pm
My Mother was just like this :( Very hard to deal with & problem is IF it was anything serious no one ever believed her or was interested .

lyndunc, Jun 5, 5:32pm
I sympathise mooba, my mind has a habit of what a counsellor called catastrophising which is what it sounds like you possibly do. If I am waiting on an outcome of something I think the worst possible thing then slowly draw back and try and say that won't happen. For example Mr L has something wrong with his heart ( he had a triple bypass almost 16 years ago) and we see the specialist tomorrow so I am thinking he may need another big operation. I think it is preparing for the worst, hoping for the best type thing.
I have no real suggestions as to how to stop it except to recognise the fact of what you are doing, which you seem to be able to do. And then try to think of other less catastrophic things it could be. Hope this may help.

lindymf55, Jun 6, 9:23am
as lyndunc suggested, it is called catastrophising in the profession.

You can either catastrophise over a current situation (as in your case), or over an event that might happen in the future.

Either way, the thoughts are irrational and very limiting to every day life. They can become a self-fulfilling prophesy of doom and gloom, feeling like a failure, hopeless, and all the other negative thoughts, that prevent you from thinking about alternative possibilities. ie, getting on with your life, and stop worrying about things that might, or might not, happen.:)

Maybe you can start writing down the times that you are doing it.
Write down the negative thoughts.
Become aware.
Be objective.
Become conscious
Have patience
Don't beat yourself up

Keep in mind too, that stress can have an affect on our body, and make it feel unwell, when it isn't. We are more likely to feel pain, when stressed.

Your 'usual' behaviour of feeling like something is wrong, possibly suggests that there is nothing wrong.

However, if you feel like there might be something that isn't going away, and/or you really are concerned, then go to your GP.

Find some ways to deal with stress/anxiety.
Go for a walk.
Talk to a friend on the phone.
Go out for a coffee
Do a hobby
Have a bath
Light some candles
Play some music
Read a book

Find your 'go to' place, when you start having those feelings. Sometimes all it takes, is to have that moment taken away, by replacing it with something pleasurable.

BTW, if you are having your cervical smears, and they are all normal, then you are more than likely safe from not having cervical cancer.

With ovarian cancer, if you have a real concern, you can ask your GP for an ultrasound, though I'd say that they won't offer it unless there are symptoms.

Personally, I suffer from anxiety, and so understand somewhat, where you are coming from. Anything can be magnified, if you are not in a good space anyway. I have my own 'go to' list. not unlike what I've written ^^^^ and try and take myself out of those negative thoughts, coz they can seriously ruin your day, and even your life, if you let them.

My anxiety started after I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer.:) Prior to getting that news, I had already had a serious illness, which led to that diagnosis, so a double whammy. These are the times that are 'normal' to feel anxiety. Anxiety is our way of saying that it's hard to cope sometimes, that life can be shite.

It's all about perspective. Knowing when it's ok and normal to feel anxiety, and knowing when it's a cry for help. a need for a listening ear. a need to take care of yourself.

Take care mooba.
EGBAR says Everything's Gonna Be All Right.:)

cosimo, Jun 6, 10:16am
Any issues not dealt with effectively can totally consume your waking thoughts and destroy sleep. Mulling things over interminably is not effective. Don't cogitate - consult your doctor.

lythande1, Jun 6, 4:13pm
Some people do. My husband is a bit like that.
Don't look up the stuff, like the muscle thing, pains could bring up heaps of dreaded issues.
Assume it's a muscle instead. In the first place.
Easy to say, harder to do but think this: (Quoted by a doctor)

How come pets live (mostly) long and healthy lives but humans seem to require ongoing maintenance?

We don't. It's half us, and half the medical industry perpetuating it.

rose-murray, Jun 6, 4:32pm
These days we are inundated with personal stories of dreadful cancers, rare diseases and are being constantly told to look for symptoms for various things (mostly cancer) so we "get them early". If you are a worrier it's hard not to overthink everything. If you can afford it, use your Dr to allay any fears as they arise and if he tells you it's all in your head, tell him yes all this advertising and Tv stuff has put it there. I don't think you are mental, but take on board some of the advice given here to try and think of other things. Maybe Mindfulness would help. It calms you down and clears your mind of all that clutter.

starseeker, Jun 8, 4:59pm
I used to take my cat to a very good vet, now retired. He used to say that mostly it's the simple things that are the most likely cause of any problem.

And he was right - and so it is with humans!

kitty179, Nov 8, 2:56am
Actually, mooba1, it's not always a bad thing to think 'worst case scenario' when faced with a troublesome symptom. Get things checked out and then if your fears are unfounded, let it go. I tend to be a 'worst case' type of person, and in my case it was justified - my breast was not just dimpling due to aging, I had early stage breast cancer (20 years ago); my husband was also diagnosed with an incurable disease (thankfully he's responding to treatment at the moment) four years ago because I was not prepared to let him ignore what was happening even though the doctors said it was nothing. Without that early diagnosis he would have been dead within the year. So - yeah - not always a bad thing to be erring on the 'dark' side. Just get things checked out to make sure.

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